I too am a spineless coward, same situation. I seldom " dress appropriately" and stay off camera as much as possible. Open the meeting, then can peruse other sights. Sometimes look up misused/pronounced words or fact check. Sometimes I rest my eyes. The chatter before reminds me of an insane asylum. More each meeting seem to have no picture on. Using a laptop there is little detail but I look at decorations. So far no xmas trees or pics of MLK or flags but you never know. I really want to set up in the den and have a gun hanging on the wall.
The bday is no big deal for me, I just have to check for expirations